Can’t we all just get along?

I have so many post rolling in my head, but this one is the one that seems to want to come out.

Webster’s Dictionary com·mu·ni·ty/kəˈmyunɪti/ Show Spelled [kuh-myoo-ni-tee] Show IPA noun, plural com·mu·ni·ties. 1. a social group of any size whose members reside in a specific locality, share government, and often have a common cultural and historical heritage. 2. a locality inhabited by such a group. 3. a social, religious, occupational, or other group sharing common characteristics or interests and perceived or perceiving itself as distinct in some respect from the larger society within which it exists (usually preceded by the ): the business community; the community of scholars. 4. a group of associated nations sharing common interests or a common heritage: the community of Western Europe. 5. Ecclesiastical . a group of men or women leading a common life according to a rule. World English Dictionary community (kəˈmjuːnɪtɪ) — n , pl -ties 1. a. the people living in one locality b. the locality in which they live c. ( as modifier ): community spirit 2. a group of people having cultural, religious, ethnic, or other characteristics in common: the Protestant community 3. a group of nations having certain interests in common 4. the public in general; society 5. common ownership or participation 6. similarity or agreement: community of interests 7. (in Wales since 1974 and Scotland since 1975) the smallest unit of local government; a subdivision of a district 8. ecology a group of interdependent plants and animals inhabiting the same region and interacting with each other through food and other relationships

Typically, at least in my experience, communities build each other up. They are there to support one another. Never in my life have I ever been apart of a community that didn’t rally together when times got tough. When tragedy struck, they came in droves to help and protect one another. Until this one. It is disheartening to say the very least. Always bashing one another, trying to one up one another, passing judgement till no end. If we do this to one another, how on earth do we expect people outside of our community to do any different. Being part of a community doesn’t mean we will agree on everything, but shouldn’t we have some level of mutual respect. Not every treatment works for every patient. Can’t we just say hey, that didn’t work for me but I’m glad it works for you. Not every idea that comes up will be favored by all. Can’t we just say hey, that doesn’t sound like something that I’m interested in but I’m glad it works for you. Not every person’s symptoms are the same, Can’t we just say hey, it doesn’t affect me that way but tell me how it affecting you. Not in this community, in this community we jump on bandwagon’s and assault each other and tear each other to shreds. Like any other type of research we take what we can use and we put the rest to the side, but not in this community. In this community we hear things like, your kid’s not autistic enough, if you vaccinate your a monster, if you don’t your a lunatic, if you let your kids eat what they eat your lazy, if your go GFDF your feeding into mob mentality, if you do this therapy your torturing your kid, if you don’t do therapy your not doing enough, if you talk about Autism your destroying your kids future, if you don’t your ruining them and not protecting, advocating, — what ever the complaint maybe. If they get out of your sight for a second your not watching them, if you helicopter then your being over bearing and not letting them live life …. where does it stop, where does it end?!?! Can’t we just agree to disagree. If we can’t get along in our community, we will never get the rest of the world to see the awesomeness that is our kids. And if we can’t do that, then they will never see the awesome adults they turn into. Just think before you respond to posts and blogs, is this helpful or hurtful? Can I add value to the conversation or am I just stirring the pot? If you can’t add value to the conversation, just move along.